She’s here!

by Elizabeth on April 28, 2014

Hey Fitties! It’s been awhile, I know.

I hope you’ll forgive me if I keep my first blog post short and sweet because…

well, she’s just so sweet.

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Simone Elise Demeusy, 7 pounds, 3 ounces, 20 inches long. Born March 9th to very proud mama and daddy.

She’s 7 weeks old now and I feel like I’ve got my feet on the ground (okay, one foot on the ground) as a work at home mama. She’s truly the most wonderful little soul and I’m trying to soak up every minute and still try to be somewhat useful. ;-)


The “What’s Your Excuse?” Controversy

by Elizabeth on October 16, 2013

So have you fitties weighed in on the whole shitstorm surrounding this picture?



Maria Kang, a fit mom of 3 cutie pie babies, is taking a lot of heat for this picture. Some people are calling her a body-shamer, some are calling her a bully. Some are defending her and saying the haters need to get the hell over it. But basically, she’s pissed a lot of people off.

It’s interesting that Ms. Kang is a former beauty pageant and fitness competitor who has had problems with an eating disorder in the past. If she’s received treatment for that disorder (and I hope she has), then she surely would know how unhelpful and even dangerous images such as these can be for women. Especially when paired with the taunting message “What’s your excuse?” It conveys the message that all women should and can look like she does and, if they don’t, it’s not anyone’s fault but theirs. (Never mind that, for most women, to have abs like hers would leave that bra top slightly on the empty side).

For many women, Kang’s figure is probably something that’s nice, like a Louis Vuitton bag that costs $1,000.00. But for many women, they have things like a mortgage or an old water heater that needs replacing. And for those women, the energy that would go into counting the macros and calories to get to Ms. Kang’s level of enviable leanness is probably better spent elsewhere, just like that $1,000.

So we settle for a body that is healthy, happy, fits decently into our jeans and we move on with the rest of our lives. Because our biggest accomplishment in life should not be our percentage of body fat. (I think I need to make that the motto of this blog).

Kang has offered the classic non-apology (“I’m sorry you took this in a negative way…”) and she says her intent was simply to say, “If I can do it, you can do it too.” And I think that message is more helpful. The tone is completely different than “What’s your excuse?” It says, hey, you may not need to look like an underwear model, but no matter what your fitness goals are, if I can do this, you can accomplish your goals too. It’s not holding herself up as what women should be striving for (which her original image, in my opinion, kind of did). Frankly, my excuse for not looking like Ms. Kang is 1) I’m pregnant, so no, I cannot look like her no matter how hard I try. It’s not an excuse, it’s called REALITY. I can think positively and believe with all my heart and visualize myself flying as I jump off the roof but I won’t fly, I’ll just hit the ground. Hard.

And, most importantly, 2) I don’t wanna look like her. She looks great, but I know what she has to do to look like that, I’ve eaten the way she has to eat to look like that and it’s not a fun life. It’s a self-absorbed, OMG my husband put TWO egg yolks in my omelette instead of just one and now my whole day is ruined because I’ve had OMGSOMUCHFAT.

This is just my two cents here… I think the tone of her original picture was a bit braggy and jerky and probably counter-productive to what she wanted to accomplish. If she’d been doing pull-ups from a wheel chair under the caption “What’s your excuse?” that might have been different. But it’s just a picture of a fit, pretty girl with professional hair and makeup styling calling the rest of the female world out for not being fit, pretty and professionally styled like she is. That’s not really a great character achievement. Pull-ups from a wheel chair = character achievement. Showing off youth, fitness and beauty = yay you. You stuck to a diet.

But maybe I’m just a fat jealous hater who doesn’t think it’s worth it to live off of egg whites and broccoli just so I can pose with my babies to get attention on the internet. 

Your thoughts?


Shit people say…

September 7, 2013

Hey Fitties! Long time no blog…. I’m entering my second trimester and things are looking good. I’m feeling good, had a little of the all-day nausea, but the nausea seemed particularly bad if I was tired. So some seabands (those acupressure things that push on your wrists) and rest helped a lot. I was just […]

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Project: Pregnant Princess Part II

July 17, 2013

Hey Fitties! The pea and I are checking in to fill you guys in on what has happened in the past week. As I write this, I’ve known I’m going to be a mama (mommy? madre? Mamacita? I’ll have to work on the title) for a little over a week. It went like this: It […]

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Project: Pregnant Princess

July 10, 2013

Hey Fitties! Long time no blog. I took that trip to Vegas, did the thing where I hit my goals and wore a sparkly dress and Jimmy Choo shoes that cut up my mother effing feets, had quite a time and.. oh yeah, tried to make a baby. Father’s Day we decided, hey, you wanna […]

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Intuitive Eating and Strength Training Experiment

June 8, 2013

Good morning Fitties! I’ve been away for a bit, adjusting my schedule, recovering from our anniversary trip to the Bahamas, (err, Bermuda. I guess I’m dreaming of traveling already) and trying to stay on top of heaps and heaps of laundry… Also, something else. So as you know, awhile ago I did the Ultimate Reset […]

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Reverse engineering your dream job

March 13, 2013

Heya Fittulents! One of my favorite shows, and not just because of the pretty clothes, is the AMC show Mad Men. Okay, the pretty clothes have a lot to do with it.   Swoon. But as much as I love Betty Draper’s Grace Kelly look, they’re part of what stifles her and holds her back from […]

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At home workouts vs. the gym

March 6, 2013

So as you fitties know that I do this:     Annnnd I also do this: I teach in-person fitness classes and I also am a Beachbody coach, meaning I help people find at-home workouts and nutritional supplements to help them on their fitness journey. It might sound like those are two incompatible occupations, sort […]

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My fitness program isn’t working

February 28, 2013

Hey fitties! In which I return to a long neglected blog. I’ve been about fitness work, rest assured. I had some assessment video deadlines to deal with and other sundry demands on my fittie time that left little mental energy for blogging. But I wanted to share something that we all need to hear from […]

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Questions of Suffering

December 21, 2012

Hey Fitties! Body Pump training: CHECK. Bunch of other shit to do: Almost check. Welcome to the gyroscope that is the end of my year. I guess we’re all in that spinning out of control time of year…. fiscal year end, holidays, etc. etc. Anyway, if you’re reading this, the world didn’t end. Surprise! (?) […]

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